unconditional love....

Our mothers love is immeasurable

Once it happened, when I went to feed my cows. In the cowshed I saw one of my cows mooing over and over again. I went next to her and gave a scary look. There was a balloon like hanging from the end of her body. I stared at it carefully and noticed it was filled with a water and pus. There was splash of blood over the balloon.

When I neared her head I have seen a tiny skinny calf lying vainly mooing. It seems the skinny calf was only about seven months old. He doesn’t have any hair on his body; his foot appears very fragile and brittle. Still he could moo that amazes.

The mother cow, she was in immense pain and suffering. When I looked at her I have seen she was not concerned of her sufferings. Dripped in a thick coated blood and flesh hanging from her end body she licks her calf around his neck, stomach and abdomen.

It was a heart touching moment. I was left standing staring at their love and compassion. After licking several time over her newly born calf there wasn’t any sound of moo neither signs of life. She then tried mooing around the calf’s ear. It was of no use the calf was gone far living his mom under enormous pain and suffering.

Still, the mother cow was hopping for the return of her newly born calf, when the calf already left her alone. With her full hope and attachment she licked, mooed and turned her calf’s corpse. But it was already gone breaking her heart, living her unconditional feelings in vain. 

The whole moment of hours awakened a great compassion momentarily probably the inner values. When animals can give such a overwhelming moral why don’t we human, can take it as a heartiest gratification in our life to pay back our gratitude to our loving and caring mom though we cannot repay the fullest, we can serve her in our little best ways.    

Illusion wishes……..

I wish:

Last cry of my heart could answer the final question of my life.

I could ask the last tear why it dropped wittily

The inner beauties I use to enjoy could come back from the far gone moments. 

The trust I have before could turn its faith to where it was before,

What was not understood before could twist to an understandable moment

Stiffness of the memories could get rip from the etched mind.

I could swing with my emotion when it touches the fragility of my weakness

I could steal the tricks of impressing the contentment of my heart

The sensibility of my mind could console itself to be the brawniest

My bestowed heart could impede itself from the disloyal believe.

I could back the love I have given to its bliss,

I could bring in the joyful jiffy or moment ever had in the world.

I could love best among the rest of the bests

I, mine and my could liberate from its cocooned egoism

1 could spark a light upon life and  pray let none endure all above!!!

When person is alone it doesn't mean he is lonely..

                                              Who can answer the unasked question.

I haven't seen a happiness yet not seen a sadness when I am with my colleagues. We chit and chat around without perpetuating each others expressions and feelings. Humorous talks, gossips and instinct expressions were the usual conversations we use to have when we stay with our friends. 

Our real identity were not even seen when we closely attach our time to our friends. It passes by clinging to it's moment. Though the talks we talk, the gossips we gossip and expressions we express are all vague feelings and words, we express and talk and talk and talk. Haven't you noticed even if we talk and talk or express and explore with our colleagues it doesn't have solution to any unasked questions? Haven't you thought when will those unasked questions will be answered before it was asked? Haven't you thought  who will answer those unasked questions?

Perhaps we may think it's all about a matter of thinking. If we look at the covert answers of our mind or inwardly we look deep inside we can see those questions as well the answers to those unasked questions. When I say unasked questions what pricks was all about the tricks which will question when we doesn't have any answers to those question's question.





           

Let your life blossom ....

Person who made a difference in my life.

She was a gracious student with profound behavior. A role model when we were in the ninth grade. Our teachers loved her, not because she was beautiful and from an affluent family. She was an open minded, amenable, decent, simple and diligent student. She was three year senior to me, in twelfth grade in 2005.

She appreciates herself being a unique individual, cares younger like her own sibling and respect seniors as a master. Her friends were heaved along with herself to become a productive individual. She shares in the state of despair and doubt, guides when students’ breaches out of the track and support the needy friends.

Azhim ??.... amazes everyone by her lucid and articulate advices. The first advice I ever heard was, challenging every opportunity. Opportunity will walk through a path only once. We have to grab hold of it, being it an easy or a complex challenge, was her word.

Being open to any idea is one vital thing we should take it up to be in the change that we desire to.

Ignoring the fearful or disregarding it was another facet of life. She advised on to build upon our self esteem, confidence, and determination and to be a self assertive being; we should put several tips under a nutshell as our philosophy, she said. Most important thing like controlling egoism, considering others take, reflecting on ones mistakes and setting goals.

Nevertheless, taking all the advice as a daily philosophy was extremely difficult. So I paved the way, practicing bit by bit from the countless advices. However, to instill the morals within us we have to manage it like an amateur drama, which I have done and seen bright flame blazing upon my career.

Earlier, though I was completely engrossed in ludicrous talks I was not known that conversations would elicit strong emotions.

Egoism too, flared me and killed my talents of openness. I used to fidget nervously when someone asked me questions or any opinion.

Gradually now, I can put an end to those omnibus outrageous behaviors whenever they out pours, holding my head up proudly. It was all because of her I am now standing on this platform where I can contest the uprising challenge in education. She has printed a deep foot print on my pages which I would never rip instead will preserve it. My sister’s words of wisdom inspire everyone and I take her advices as a stepping stone in my life. Let yours also shine and blossom with flowers.

True love, a practice for awakening the heart. ( as per Buddhism)

“A simplicity and directness that brings true love within reach’

                                           - Dragonview.

True love’s aspect makes each of us better in understanding the love. If we do not understand we cannot love, love is a true thing if it is made up of a substance called understanding. When we love a person our love may make the other person suffer therefore loving kindness is for most element of love which is not only the desire to make our love happy but ability to make him or her happy practicing deep looking gradually the main essence of love known as understanding. We must have time; we must practice looking deeply into this person. We must be there, attentive; we must observe compassionately ease pain of another person and help him or her change. If you cry all time without joy it is not true love. Love should be served with joy. When you love, you bring freedom to the person you love. You must love in such a way that the person you love feel free, not only outside but also inside. “Dear one, do you have enough space in your heart and all around you?” this is an intelligent question for testing out that your love is something real. (Hanh,T.N, 2006)

“Many young people face difficult life situations.

How can I survive this difficult time?

FIND A SANCTUARY. Find a safe place where you don’t have to worry about being bothered and where you can relax and think.

CHANGE YOUR PERCEPTIONS. Anger, sadness, depression and hopelessness (all strong emotions) affect a person’s ability to see the many sides of a situation. Strong emotions may give a person something called “tunnel vision”. This means that only one view can be seen and none of the others. Often, someone who is not emotionally involved can help you take a fresh look at the situation and come up with options and solutions. With patience, you will find a solution to every problem.

LOOK FOR THE GOOD. Everywhere, every moment and every situation, look for the good and positive. There are many things to be grateful for in your life – from your health to the people who care about you to the safe places where you can go. Think about what your life would be like if you didn’t have good health, someone to turn to, or somewhere to go. Often, you are fortunate to have, you tip the scale from the despair and sadness to hope and an expectation that everything will turn out okay in time.

PUT IT IN PERSPECTIVE. Will this problem or situation really matter to you in ten years, five years, or even one year? How does this situation affect the big picture? Chances are, what you are most concerned with right now will not be remembered in the months or years to come.

DISCOVER WHO YOU ARE. You are here for a reason, a purpose. You were given certain strengths and talents. What are they? How can you develop your strengths and use them to help yourself through this situation and prepare for your future?

TRANSCEND (RISE ABOVE) YOUR ENVIRONMENT. Be who you truly are. Don’t get caught up in what anyone else says, does, or thinks about you. Regardless of who may be trying to hold you back, remember who you are and what you need to do to succeed.

Get HELP. Everyone needs help. Find a trusted adult or a resource (a school, community, or national organization) that can give you the information, support, and guidance you need. Find someone you can trust and who can help you work through your problems.

TURN OFF THE TELEVISION. Television can be entertainment, but it can also cause disappointment and sadness and fuel misperceptions about life. On television, families and people’s lives all seem to be perfect, or their problems can be worked out within a half hour. These portrayals are very unrealistic and people may begin to compare their less than perfect lives with what they see on television. This cause a person to feel like her/his life is nothing special or, even worse, a nightmare. Cut back on the hours you spend in front of the television. Try to limit what you see to programs that make you feel bad about yourself or who only add to your problems. Turn off music or other influence that describe the negative aspects of life or negative ways to handle problems. Cigarettes, alcohol, and other drugs only complicate life and create huge problems later down the road. Avoid these things at all costs.

BE CAREFUL WHERE YOU TURN! Beware of people who suggest that you use drugs or violence or join a gang to help you solve problems. There are those who are constantly looking for young people who are vulnerable (weak in their ability to make good decisions), or in difficult situations so that they can take advantage of them. Often these people will come across as being very nice and will try to gain your trust. Once they think they have your trust, they may fill your head with bad information or try to persuade you into drug use, gang involvement, or other bad ideas. Be aware that not everyone who offers you a hand helps you.

KEEP GOING! No matter how difficult it gets or how hopeless it seems, your life will improve – as long as you keep trying.

YOU ARE YOUR OWN PERSON; DON’T LET ANYONE TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU!!!

Source: Basso, M.J. (2003). The underground guide to teenage sexuality

(2^nd ed.).USA: Fairview press.